Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Happy New Year

Happy New Year Friends and family.

For the first time I have been excited for the new year. I just have this feeling that BIG things will be happening. I am not for sure what those BIG things are but I feel comfort in knowing that my family isn't walking alone. What change will happen this year for us? Will we start the process for our larger family or will we be buying our 1st home or going back to school or a higher up job. Who knows??? GOD knows we just have to wait and see where we are lead this year.

With god all things are possible

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Talks about sons medical..MIGHT be hard to read Why??? I am trying to..LONG story that tells our story of where we are today

I talk about what I am having an Issue about and then I tell sons story so you understand a little more of why I am scared to even apply for a home loan. NOTE we are on our feet now but due to reasoning below you'll understand more to what we struggle with for a few more years to come..even when they are paid off they still leave a nasty taste and it all was a choice but you'll read the choices below.

The past 2 days this has been on my heart stronger then anything. It has been something that I have been praying about for a while now and I am hearing and I have been getting better. I am letting go. Well you see there is a house that would be a great starter home for us. It's locations it's price it's yard it's Sq footage is all RIGHT for us. We came across this home more then a month ago and we just liked it but thought oh there is no way. So we just let it go. Well 2 days ago out of the blue I went online and looked up houses in the area. Nothing other then this sudden urge to do so. I wasn't looking for this house because it for sure would be gone. I was just looking at the 147 homes and wishing and dreaming and when I came to the price where the house was a month ago and it wasn't there. Well good someone got a great house to turn into a home. I walked away but this weird feeling kept hitting me like I was just punched in the gut. Oh man I must of ate something that wasn't sitting right. I took some of that pink junk and laid down and it wasn't going away so I got up. I sat at the computer and the ERA site was still up. Ok what the heck I'll just see all the many homes in the area for sale and just dream. My tummy was feeling better and so this dreaming now wasn't a dreaded. After 4 more pages the house was there at a lower price. What how can this be it's in a great area and we even know some inside info on that house.
Now we did some looking up some things and now I am scared to even try to get a loan. You see hubby is the one working as I am a stay at home mom. Well Back in 2004 when our little bundle of joy came we were great on our feet doing good. Well 2 weeks after he was born our world turned upside down when he turned blue and stopped breathing. our baby was in distress. Still all was good money wise but that shortly turned when he was 1 month old when he had another episode and still we had no idea what was going on other then he would start to cry and no joke within 5 sec's he was not breathing anymore. We called medics and it took them 17 min's to arrive at our home and by that time we had him stable again and they left it to us if we felt he needed to go in. Even before they pulled away we had him packed up in the car and our hazards on for the 20 min trip to the nearest hospital. Since he was so young we checked in and went right back. Not even 10 min's back in the room I held him as they tried to get some blood to run test on and again started crying and 5 sec's he was not breathing blue and eyes closed the nurse started breathing on him right there in my arms and within sec's he was on the bed with over 15 nurses and doctors preforming CPR and cutting his clothes off. His heart didn't stop but took a good 2 min's for him to start breathing on his own again. From there we we're admitted and waited for transport to Mary bridge. He was so critical they had to send a PICU doctor/Nurse/and respiratory doctor just to make that 30 min drive. I held my son until I had to place him into an warming isolette and walk behind them as they rush him to the awaiting Mary Bridge medic. We were told not to keep up with them. I was just melting on all of this. We went to hubbys aunt to let her know as she lived only 2 blocks from the hospital. I just lost it and we were gone in less then a minute towards the hospital. We did speed a little bit but we got there within minutes of our son arriving. We got there and sent right up to the PICU. We walked in and all I could do was hold his little hand. he was in a warming bed and had lot's of monitors and a personal nurse that sat by his door. We spent all day with doctor and nurses galore. They thought he might be a heart baby and it wasn't caught at birth. That was what they thought at least. The card doc came in and looked at his near perfect heart thump away. He had the smallest murmur. For sure would out grow that. so the heart was ruled out. Then it went to brain all good there. to make this short we went home 7 days later on an apenic machine and a wedge and medicine for acid reflux. he's an GERDS baby. We went home and all was well things were working. Then that day came came. I was sitting at the computer as son slept in swing next to me. Then I heard this weird noise from him that sounded weird and noticed his cheeks red and eyes glassy. Ok he spit up so I grabbed him and went to our bathroom for his bulb to suction out anything (again he's an acid reflux baby) By the time I got to the bathroom with him my heart knew something was wrong I went for the phone to call 911 and it rang. It was hubby and all I said was "can't talk" and I hung up and called 911. right before the phone rang He went stiff and his eyes rolled back and then LIMP. So I hung up with hubby and called 911..."911 what's your emergency?" "I have a 2 month old baby not breathing I am starting CPR." "Do you need help with CPR?" "NO" As I am giving CPR and holding the phone to my ear with my shoulder "She tells me she is getting the CPR directions up anyways. "I have it up if you need help..How is he?" "He's started to whimper very faint.... what do I do?" "Can you let me hear him" As I do that I hear the medics arrive. "They are here" Son is on the couch so I grabbed him and ran to the door. They are rushing they take one look at him and 1 is asking me questions but now I have LOST it and shaking so HARD I can hardly talk. Mind you hubby got there the same time the medics arrive. A medic 1 happened to be in the Yelm area when they call came and got to us in less then 5 min's from their location (This is not their area god placed them there for a reason) Less then 1 min they we're running out the door and tell me to grab his diaper bag and get in the medic. that 20 min drive I said before took about 8 min's. Once we got the hospital I was told that he had 3 more events in that 8 min's. Hubby was on his way to the hospital but the medic's refused to leave me. They were amazing support for me as I waited for Hubby to arrive at the hospital. He was about 10 min's behind and by the time he arrived we were loading up son for transport to Mary bridge. Right before leaving for Mary bridge Hubbys aunt comes rushing in. she was so distraught her church sent her home (she was practicing for a play). She got to see he was stable so it calmed her down some. She was great. This time I transported with son and was able to keep him from crying which made for no events. We got the 2nd hospital and since no events we went through the regular children's ER. While there the doctor came in and started to go off on me for giving my son CPR. BLAH BLAH BLAH something about being trained to give CPR..what she didn't know is that I was more then trained to handle events such as these. As she was in the middle of this OUT roar my hubby walked in and I am on the verge of crying and thinking what did I do wrong..did I hurt him somehow?? I was holding him and he was all smiles and cooing and if you didn't go through the event I had you would of thought he was fine. Well he kindly informed her that I had been trained in CPR. She did back down and then the residence doctor had come in and we knew her from the 1st trip here and she knew us. She asked what was wrong and I told her about son and then she said no you. Then Hubby told her what happened and then she walked out and about 15 min's later the 1st doctor came in and she said that she was sorry that she assumed we were one of the 99% of parents who don't learn how to do infant/child CPR. Things changed then. Well then we were admitted after we refused discharge due to the event we had at home. So we were put in a room and all is good and expected to go home the next day but the next day came and they said no your staying over the weekend due to his Sat's from the 24 hours. However he was doing good no events. We went to hubbys aunts house to give her an update and grab the clothes they grabbed for us. We were eating and then suddenly i had this feeling something was wrong and we had to go right then and there. We stopped at Kmart to grab Binky's as this was our sons best friend at this time. In less then 5 Min's grab some and left. I feel sicker then a dog. We walk into the hospital 15 Min's later and we here "CODE BLUE Peds 6..." <--leaving out on purpose) and people flying passed in the flash of light. It's our sons room and we go RUNNING for the elevator. We got to his room less then a minute and he was gone. Our nurse came running over and she says "He's gone" I nearly fall but another nurse hears and she quickly says "He's upstairs and then she filled us in." Oh my gosh why did she say that to us? We go upstairs and we can't get in it's locked (PICU) We call back and we are told that he is being stabilized we'll let you know when they are ready. The whole time we are waiting finally a nurse asks if we are up there yet. They called us in and now he is stabilized. I walk in and go right to my little guy. He's having a tough time breathing his chest is collapsing with every breath. The doctor said they are going to keep an eye on him but they may incubate him if needed. They leave and just me and hubby are with him with his nurse filling out the report. He was just struggling I walked out to his nurse (Abby) and said he's struggling to much I want him incubated she came in and looked and called the doctor. He comes in and I rattle off we need to incubate with .................. and he agreed and so they started to prep and asked us to go to the waiting room. They would be done shortly. Since we couldn't be there we took that time to go down to the main lobby and call family and let them know. I was sitting by the lobby doors just crying and then this lady walked past me and said "LOOK UP YOUR SONS NAME" she walked in from outside how did she know we had a son in the first place. I am confused but took it to heart. We are both done talking to family with updates and should be able to get back to son. So we went back up. He is now incubated and resting comfortable. The doctor came in and let us know how things went and that he would like to put in a pic line. We agreed and things started to run smoothly and his body was healing. I did look up his name (Fighter...Gods gift So perfect he was sure the little fighter and he is 100% gods gift to us) I knew from that time that he would be OK. So we spent 63 days straight in the hospital with 48 of those days in the PICU. Had many test/ Surgery and a 2nd surgery done within those 63 days in the hospital. This is when our 2 credit cards were placed on that 2nd burner when it was take care of medical stuff not paid for by insurance and stay with son and make the hour drive each way for hubby to remain going to work. His working became the money for him to be with us at night. I can't even say to feed us as there was days were I only got 1 meal a day because of how much was going into gas. At this point we had a small back up left over from the birth of our son and the first set of medical issues before the LONG STAY. So paying our credit card bills came 2nd to paying for the medicines/rentals/travel to and from for hubby/surgeries. Do I regret it..NO WAY. Our son is 4 years old and growing STRONG. I wouldn't change a thing other then maybe getting better medical insurance and or less fight with the insurance agency to try to get them to allow a surgery that son needed that wasn't common on a child his age..as of why they WOULDN'T accept it so we signed away our life and paid for it..Took us 4 years buts it's now DONE. I don't see any parent choosing another way to go mess up credit or paying for medical treatment...Credit or sons life..Not a hard choice for me.
Came home Dec 23rd with 4 times of monitors and O2; arriving home around 2 and so we ran down to get a tree and as son and I just snuggled watching TV hubby was out getting the tree ready to put up. I hear a pounding on the door so I got up to get it and hubby put his finger and asked for me to drive him to the hospital (asif we didn't get enough of hospitals) but he asked to be dropped off he didn't want our son with all the sick peeps so we went to his aunts 2 blocks away)
Son was home until Dec 29th when we had another event after the gerds surgery which now confused the doctors they started talking about tranching him until he outgrows this. I refused and asked for a 2nd option from a doctor up at Children's hospital in Seattle (Which they knew my background at this point so they went with it and made the call) Odd issue but not uncommon nor did they need to tranche that aggressively and that he would in fact out grow this. At this time we find out that our son is now the YOUNGEST ever reported breath holder of 2 weeks old. We went home after just 7 days and for good until his feeding tube broke (9M) and was leaking like crazy. I had that removed he only needed it to BURP (yes placed to feed him if he was unable to with the Nissan he had done but he could so was left for BURPING him) Yeah Burping him took 2 sec's flat and he was good to go..Just plug it in release and Done..A little humor in all of this scary stuff.

So yeah I am scared to even apply because hubby's credit isn't the best and since I am a stay at home mom my credit means nothing in the eyes of the lender. I wish they knew all of this but they don't care it's all about the numbers. It's really not like we went shopping to get this way. We aren't bad people we aren't debt people just fell on bad times for a short time (ok not bad time but a miracle happened and we are the cutie pa tooty here today) Mind you ALL our bills are paid in full each month before they are even due and never a day late but that isn't posted on our credit as we aren't late so no negative. We don't have credit cards 1st of all I am just a person who just uses money on hand and not borrowed money. We own our cars, we go with less but paid in full. Just live within our means. We have been told that since our credit isn't perfect if we had a Cosigner or 35% down we could almost 100% get the house. Mind you we are at 75% there. But I have to say that I just need to leave this to GOD 100% and that is where I am having a problem. I am so scared that I am not fully letting him show us if this is our home. I am about at 90% and I am bothered that I am not releasing myself like I tend to do. I am holding back and having a really hard time dealing with why i am holding back with this. However with that there are things that are popping into my head of what could be ways to move forward on this matter. But I know until I 100% lay it into gods hands we'll just spin in a circle and get dizzy until we all fall down with that 100% release. Ok this is long so if your still reading THANK YOU. Just needed to get that off my chest.

Please Pray for the help that I release and come into complete release to god

HUGS


Oh yes If I missed spelled anything Sorry it's 12:54AM

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Christmas BIKE

K came out bright and early and look what santa brought him. He was stoked to get a bike under the Christmas tree.

Friday, December 26, 2008

Christmas Post

Just to let you all know that the Christmas Blog will be up this weekend. I still need to load all the photo's from the camera.

Now I must get to bed as it's WAY past my bedtime

Snow Days at our Church

Bounce houses, horses, sledding, snowballs, music and much more. 4 hours of FUN. We didn't have mittens but have now invested in a few pairs for the next few years of snow days or Mtn. trips.









He didn't want to use the cheat rope. He got all the way up with only a last tug at the top.

That Little girl is crying because K got her with a snowball in her face..Yes it was an accident









Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Merry Christmas

MERRY CHRISTMAS



Hope you have a great Christmas.


Monday, December 22, 2008

Christmas Cards are finally DONE

The last of the Christmas cards went out today. Most went out 2 weeks but due the lack of hubby getting the handful of addresses we still needed until last night caused a BIG delay. I started working on these before Thanksgiving so they we're all written out just sitting in our family control journal waiting on those pesky addresses. Apparently they just don't know who Jim ....is.

Oh well next year will go much better as I have now added those addresses are now in the address book.

Ok if you are still waiting then it's in the mail and your weather might be the factor. WA and MI peeps.

Monday, December 15, 2008

The American Dream

The American dream. How do you look at this. Is it the American dream what you want in life or do you have your own sense of sight to what you call your American dream?

Whats YOUR take on the American dream? If you don't want to share just think about it.

Friday, December 12, 2008

Playing in the sand on a chilly day

Just laying around
Digging a hole to the warmer sand for his hands
Posing
Working on his handstands
Yeah he looks like a frog leapin
Spinning around







Welcome Home Shuttle Endeavour

Welcoming HOME Endeavour


Making the turn to do the Beach Flyby..Nasa trys to always give the space coast something to say THANK YOU to all of us that live on the space coast.










On it's last 10 min's of flight to touch down.
If you click on the photo's you can see the actual photo and see the shuttle MUCH better...R remember to show this to the G man, Hope he enjoys



Thursday, December 11, 2008

Who knew????




Well today while watching the Ellen show I really did learn something new. Why was it that I never knew about the tabs on the side of the boxes to hold the roll in the box. I have been using these brands since I was a kid and never once noticed the tabs. Did you know about these little tabs on the side of the boxes to give you that extra help?
Thank you Ellen


Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Venting..Not too bad

Frustrated. ordered from a store that we shop at so often and have never had a problem with them. Love them, still love them but man this is taking forever. Taking 2 weeks to get our order..OK have to say tentative date as it's not here yet but suppose to be here Friday. All is good but it's for something special that was planned for Friday but we are now moving it to Monday. Thank goodness we can do that. Mind you we have ordered many times and it's never taken more then a week to get here. I wanted to order somethings before the holiday's but now I think I will just have to make the drive. But yes I still love them and they have been great about getting back to me on the matter and such. Just frustrated but things were easy to move around so it worked out in out favor.

OK I am not saying the name of this store because this is by far not a blog to bash them but to just letting out my frustration on the matter of it taking so long and according to them it's not even from Christmas but a few weeks before. Again leaving out details so peeps don't put 2 and 2 together.

If you know or think you know where I am talking about don't say anything on the blog please.

OK I am done venting.

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Adoption Video

This is not our adoption agency but we think they did a great JOB.

So many don't understand adoption they only see the negatives that the news LOVE to share and or think about the money. MOST of those people were never faced with the hurt that comes from not being able to have children. And the money reason well you paid nearly the same for your children but most people have insurance who pay for this. Well insurance companies don't want to pay for or help with an adoption for anyone....I wont go on my soap box now on that matter so I'll leave it at that.

Listen to what these parents say (ESP the end) and you can hear about what feelings we who can't carry feel.

Like us are blessed with 1 child but want more children and adoption is our only thread of hope to fulfill our desire to parent our children that god has placed into our heart. When one has a desire for more then 1 child that desire just doesn't go away. For us we want 3 children and we know they are waiting for us to come and bring them home to their forever home.

Thursday, December 4, 2008

FRIENDS

I'm sending this to you to see how many actually read their e-mail.Your response will be interesting. Pay attention to what you read.After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason it was sent to you.

Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person..When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.They are there for the reason you need them to be.Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.They may teach you something you have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.Your job is to accept the lesson,love the person and put w hat you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Monday, December 1, 2008

Cold Front.... board Hubby

We have yet another cold front..Sorry peeps in the North it's cold to US. But all cold fronts bring Allergies so we are ALL on antihistamine and using the tissues like there is no tomorrow.

on a good note I went back to work from his week off and now life is feeling pretty normal again. Now don't get me wrong I love him to death but dude he get's bored all too quickly and then my car goes into repair of an issue I didn't even know was there. Yeah you got that right he got under the car and looked around and he found a lose thing that goes to a round thing that goes into a tube thing. Yeah you got the point. LOL i have always said that he can't just sit down and stay home and do nothing.
Posting tomorrow make sure to come and check back